It’s is not about why or how, it’s all about where.
As a human being, the best way for you is by trial and error.
As a child of God, you see your way.
It’s just there.
If you don’t see it clear, go closer.
The way
When it comes to deal with people, being active won’t go well. Well, yourself does be an exception that you can get together with being active.
But to the others, you have no choice but being passive, or doing nothing.
There is no such a thing that you’re the leader, the mentor, the coach, you guide them, direct them, make them. No.
It’s that they choose to make themselves in a way you chose the same, in other words, it’s the way that makes you all for it, it’s the way makes you all get along with, it’s the way makes you all out there.